Hi Searching for Answers,

At first I thought he was in his twenties and had all this compassion for him. But then I read that he’s like, my age. I don’t have a Masters or anything, but I sacrificed grad school so I could start a family. On the flip side I know a guy who HAD a family, worked part time and went to grad school an hour away. Then there’s my step brother who got his Masters at his leisure and did nothing with it.

It is so easy for people to use a “front” to avoid what they think they should be doing. Like, I thought I should go to grad school. But I used my family as an excuse not to go. Deep down he doesn’t want to get married. So he’s using grad school. He wants to be young forever. If he were in his twenties, yes, sure, I totally get men building their nest. But he’s had time to build two!

I agree with everything everyone else posted about you doing things for you! Don’t be on his hook.

Blessings,

Inky