Dear alabamamama:

From what you last wrote he is currently okay with you leaving for a month or two. And he is also okay if you didn’t leave at all.

Following the point I made in my last post to you, what you last wrote is that his love for you is “waking up” most recently? He is interacting with you more instead of being fully absorbed in the computer or being stoned?

Well, this is up to you, if this awakening is enough to keep you from leaving at all, or if you leave- you may choose to return after a month or two.

I understand your boyfriend had a rough childhood and is quite charming and lovable. I have no doubt there is a whole lot to love about him and he is a worthy individual. From your sharing, you are more than willing to have a good lifetime with him if he loves you back. “If” he loves you back, I wrote. IF- meaning, he has to be awake to you enough of the time, every day, pay attention to you, communicate, work of mutual goals, make it a Win-Win relationship, win for him AND win for you, as you do the same.

Hope you post again.

anita