Dear Sue:

My goodness, you too had tics and OCD? I had heavy duty OCD and Tourette Syndrome since I was five or six.

I am glad I was able to be of help. I’ve been on what I call my Healing Path/ journey/ process for over five years, hours of work per day, starting with my first therapy with a competent, empathetic and hard working therapist (at 50), two years, and then, using the skills I learned I kept going for three more years and going. I learned and am learning a lot and will be glad to share more with you. So anytime, please post here and I will be glad to reply.

Those connections between brain cells (neuropathways) were formed and got reinforced with every bullying incident by your sister. Every time you see her, these pathways are reinforced. If you stopped seeing her altogether, those pathways, over time, will weaken. If you stopped seeing her and took on healing, as I have, you could accelerate the weakening of these pathways, but it will take a whole lot of time.

I was criticized a lot in the past for … not “getting over” the past and not “moving on”- those criticisms and disapproval hurt me further, added injury to injury. The past is imprinted in the brain via those pathways. There is no way to undo those pathways by an act of will. We are formed- during those Formative Years- with the past as part of our physiology.

I read more of your story, in the last post and it is regrettable. Your mother did not protect you from your bullying sister, didn’t notice your isolation and distress and on top of it, added her cruel words. What a shame.

As I wrote, do post anytime.

anita