Dear thoughts:

I think you feel hurt and feeling hurt well.. it feels badly. You feeling hurt doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. Everyone- every person- feels hurt sometimes.

The fact that your ex didn’t tell you he was dating, doesn’t mean either that there is something wrong with you. Instead, it means that he didn’t keep his word to you. It felt more comfortable for him to not let you know so he chose what was comfortable for him. It is an indication of his thoughts and feelings and not an indication of yours.

The fact that your ex told you he didn’t want children with you but now has a child with another woman is also, not an indication of there being something wrong with you or that you are less than the woman in his life. What it means is that something unexpected happened to him. That something unexpected had nothing to do with you.

What happened? I don’t know but it didn’t have to do with you.

He told you that if he had a child with you he will resent you and the child. Unfortunately, now that he has a child, he may be resenting the child and the mother of his child. That is unfortunate for the child and for the mother of his child.

Fortunately for you, you are not in her position.

anita