Hi Tammy. I am not going ‘religious’ on you’ but the words “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive others who trespass against us” comes to mind. If by arrogance you mean being assertive then that is no bad thing especially in a woman. But arrogance in the sense of always being right and riding roughshod over others is not good.
I don’t honestly think you are that kind of person, and may be beating yourself up without cause. We all say and do things we may regret and if we can make amends and feel we need to apologise then we should. But you must not believe YOU are always in the wrong. Sometimes it may harm being done to you. Only you will know that.