Dear Liquidsnake:

I don’t know what you mean above by: “communication is all it matters? can we do anything, if we communicate appropriately?”

In my last post to you, I suggested that maybe in the past, when you felt that the two of you were very close, that she didn’t feel very close with you. I did not suggest that it was your fault. It is possible that she was not honest with you in the past, and if she was not honest with you, honest communication was not possible. Honest, helpful communication is possible only if BOTH parties are honest.

If one of the parties to the communication refuses to be honest, then the second party will always be confused. Until the second party exits the communication.

As is, it seems to me that best if you had no contact with her. Reality is, you don’t Have-To have contact with her. It is possible for you to arrange your life in such ways that you will have no contact with her. There will be discomfort on your part, a price to pay for having no contact, but maybe you can manage it so that the benefit will outweigh the cost.

anita