Hi Ganesha,

I’ll be honest…I think if you re-read your last post, especially towards the end, you’ve sort of answered your own question. If a relationship with him is “impossible,” and he’s not willing to work on himself as you mentioned, you’re only prolonging the inevitable, and in my experience the longer you do that the harder it is.

Relationships (IMO) are very much about compromise and understanding. It’s sounds like you’ve compromised a lot of what makes you happy in order to spend time with him…but has there been any compromise on his part to try and make whatever this is workable for *both of you*? If not, I’d say it’s time to let go. You sound like a cool person and I can pretty much guarantee you there’s a guy out there with similar interests, morals, and values where the term “impossible” wouldn’t even enter the equation.

A lot of guys have the approach to emotional openness of “I’m me, deal with it.” I know that because I used to be one of those idiots many moons ago. The good news is you don’t have to deal with it if you don’t want to.

Hopefully something in my “too close to bedtime”‘ramblings has been helpful. 🙂