Dear slider,

I just looked through what are type nine and eight personalities of enneagram.
I know you mentioned that you are on the verge of parting ways. But while you continue your conversations with members of the site for your immediate concerns I recommend you going through Eckhart Tolle’s book ‘The Power of Now’ about taking relationships as a spiritual practice. Relationships are like homework assignments from Life. The book will not only help in your present relationship but also in future ones (and not necessarily only the life-partner ones). This book is not for relationships only but applicable to all areas of life.

http://newworldlibrary.com/NewWorldLibraryUnshelved/tabid/767/articleType/ArticleView/articleId/255/RELATIONSHIPS-AS-SPIRITUAL-PRACTICE-An-Excerpt-from-THE-POWER-OF-NOW-by-Eckhart-Tolle.aspx#.V96KZfB97IU

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Best Wishes!
VJ