Dear Sarah Louise:

You wrote that you suffer from severe anxiety. If this budding, possible relationship with this man it to be, he will have to know of your anxiety. You can’t hide it, and if you try- he may misinterpret your anxiety fueled words, facial expressions and behavior as something else, which will not be to your benefit. Your best bet (you wrote: ” I really don’t know how to play it”) of playing it is letting him know the real you, anxious and all. If you share with him about your anxiety honestly, simply, he is likely to feel empathy for you and share about his own anxiety and challenges. This will bring the two of you closer.

Don’t try to fake confidence, to appear confident: that is likely to be a lost cause. Be authentic- and you will be a winner because at the least you will be practicing authenticity, visibility and that will promote your well being.

So call him, ask him why he didn’t call you today (if he didn’t by the time you read this) and please post again.

anita