Dear Ladybug:

It takes a lot of time to see who your parents really are. As children we are very invested in seeing them in ways that make us feel safe, that we are under the care of capable, loving people.

I think you are in the process of seeing your father (previous thread, 8 or more months ago) and your mother the way they really are. Unfortunately, your mother will not help you in this process. If her go to saying is: it is all in your head, then she will not help you.

It is a painful process that takes a lot of time and often a person needs help from a competent therapist. Please be patient with yourself, Ladybug, and with the process. The payoff is and will be better mental health for yourself and a better life.

Post anytime.

anita