Hello Anita,

I can’t say that I have ever had hopes of her becoming a better person who is calm and happy. That is something that I have never really thought about. My hopes have been more around me leaving her or her leaving me. On point 2, I have always tried to avoid confrontation by telling her whatever it is that I think she wants to hear. Also, I have never tried to control her in any way and she has been able to act exactly as she pleases in all aspects of her life. By nature I am a very easy going person who never gets into confrontations with anyone but for many years my wife has had a long history of starting confrontation out of nothing with total and utter disrespect for my feelings.