Dear Wendy,

Did you actually hear the friend say anything about your dancing, or you knew that from your boyfriend? I was wondering how exactly happened the situation.

You have been invited by your teacher to perform, you should be proud of yourself! This means that you really have a talent! You should do this for your own pleasure. People say many things about stuff they don’t understand, or say stupid things when they don’t know how exactly to express themselves.

I agree that your boyfriend should love and respect all your passions and never say anything bad about you in front of other people, and yes he should protect you when you are endangered and stand by you if you are being directly insulted. But he does not have to jump and defend you against the smallest remark either. People have a right to their own opinion.

There is no way to control people and events and expect some higher instance to rule who should be going where or what they should or shouldn’t say. The more we learn to accept people and situations as they are, the better we will feel.

You mention that you are working your self-confidence issue. One way is to not tie it to what people say about what you do.

The fact that your boyfriend is touchy himself does not mean that he is not able to recognize this mistake in others. We all have our personal imperfections to work on and it may be extremely difficult to improve them even if we are crystal clear about them.

Don’t create unnecessary drama with your boyfriend because of what another person said. Just be happy. 🙂