Hi Inky,

Thank you for taking time writing to me.

Out of the entire event, the only right thing I have done was to leave my ex spouse. My child is so much happier now because she is less insecure and her daddy is now spending better quality time with her. She used to reject him and cried all the time when her dad was around. I always put her as my priority . No matter how bad I feel, I ensure she has a ” happy ” mum. It is actually tough . Not only I have to deal with the my emotion towards my colleague but I have to face the constant emotional abuse from my ex spouse . Looking after a 3 year old for 5 days a week is challenging too esp I don’t have any help while my ex spouse just gets his mother to help looking after my girl on the weekends .

What you said about my love interest is true and I have thought bout the same on and off in the last 3months. I have told myself all the time to think bout his wife and kids ( in trust me I don’t want to hurt anyone because I know how painful it will be for them)so I can’t do anymore wrong . Despite me knowing in my heart that he is a ” jerk” , I also know how his mind works since we have been friends for 7 yrs. He met and married his first love for 15 years and I know I am the only person / female that he is close to besides his wife. There is a part of me believed it was real. However , I will never really find out what was going on in his mind and it is irrelevant as I said I don’t live in that fantasy anymore . I just want to be able to move on and rid the feeling . I guess it is still so fresh and raw and it doesn’t help when we work together .

Kangli