Dear Kangli:

Reading your last post, I am glad- again- to read that you did the right thing by your daughter to divorce your husband.

Regarding your last two posts: what you miss about the man is how you felt. Don’t we all want to feel good.. I do. People do a whole lot of things to feel good, anything from taking drugs and destroying their lives) to over eating to.. gambling, to having affairs to… a whole lot of things.

We all want to feel good. And so do you. The solution is then, how can you feel good without that relationship?

There are ways that are not destructive (the examples I gave) such as reasonable exercise, yoga, walks in nature, good support groups, competent psychotherapy, hot tea, hot baths… etc.

And it is still possible for you to have a relationship with a man that will feel good. That brings me back to my original point that I made on your thread: learn the best you can about you and about other people; the more you know, the better equipped you will be to choose a man and then carry on a relationship that will promote your well being and feel good!

anita