Dear sunflowerbird89:

From your explanation of the incident, neither you nor your cousin did anything wrong or hurtful to Jane. The fact that “they all yelled at me and finally decided to abandon me” for no reason other than your cousin talking to Jane against encouraging you to drink alcohol tells me that the friendship was based on … drinking alcohol, that drinking alcohol was the glue that held the group of five together and once the drinking was attacked by your cousin, the friendship disintegrated.

Time to make a friendship based on a better glue, and that is empathy and respect, honesty and trust. Evaluate any person in your life that you interact with before getting involved, ask yourself: is this person empathetic to me (and I to him/ her)? Is this person respectful to me? Honest? And over time: is this person trustworthy? Can I depend on him or her?

I sure hope you soon make a good friend a real best friend (not one requiring the ” ” you used in your title, in “best friends”).

Post anytime.

anita