Hey Anita

What I understood is summarized well here “In simple terms, Dr. Davila presents us with the idea of insight, mutuality, and emotion regulation. These skills will help anyone develop romantic competence.Romantic competence is the ability to function adaptively across all aspects of the relationship process: from figuring out what you need; to finding the right person; to building a healthy relationship and to getting out of relationships that are unhealthy.

Insight is one’s ability to know what you really want. Mutuality is being able to understand and communicate that you and your partner may have different sets of values, ideals and standards. Emotional regulation is a person’s ability to stay calm and think decisively even in challenging times.People who are romantically competent are more optimistic about marriage and actually being in relationships. These 3 crucial skills in building healthy romantic relationship should be something that we start working on as early as possible.”

Nothing super profound per say but useful for daily basis actually- especially emotional regulation.

Regards,
Nina