This exact thing has happened to me throughout my life. I am a quiet person whose kindness has routinely been mistaken for weakness.

Here is the answer. Get away from this group. Whatever it takes. Simply stop contact. Do not speak with them.

They are abusing you, and this 100% unacceptable. If you “turn the other cheek,” they will only smack it, too.

Even if you work with these people, take the necessary steps to go out of your way to avoid them. Remember that any bullying as a result of the break could not be any worse than the bullying you are already being subjected to. Actually, the bullying once you leave will not be as bad. This is because, as things are, you are expending energy by being positive to these people and giving them the best of what you have to offer, even as they give you the opposite in return. *THAT* is the part that threatens to break you if you stay in this abusive situation.

There is NO excuse for their behavior. It is NOT your problem. You do not have to be subjective to the vitriol of others who are unhappy with their lives so much that they are spewing toxins in the direction of innocent bystanders, and undermining the humanity of other people, simply because they have to be in close proximity to them while they earn money to feed their families.

I guarantee you that, if you have patience, you will soon hear another person complaining about their behavior. You are not their first victim, and you won’t be their last.

Just decide to be done with it – today. Do it for you. Do it for your child.

You don’t have to make a ruckus ~ do it quietly. Just quietly go – with no explanation – and no further contact. Simply decline all invitations and avoid all social interactions. Don’t spend anymore of your precious life’s energy on this timewasting situation.

Good luck. Keep coming back here as much as you need. There are plenty of people here to listen and help.

“Stop being invested in the the opinions of those who are invested in your failure.”
“A lie has speed. But truth has endurance.”

• This reply was modified 8 years ago by Maradoll.