Dear Ninja:

“Are married people obliged to disclose their “number” to their spouse?” No. But it is your right, Ninja, as is any man, to ask a woman you consider marrying for the number of men. If she refuses to tell you, which is her right, then it is your right to end the relationship and/ or not marry her.

Regarding the “sense of purity in those who haven’t slept around.’ (slept around, meaning with many men)” I am bringing up the following questions about a woman’s history before marriage:

Is a woman pure if she didn’t have sexual intercourse with any man (is still a virgin) but had steamy partial sexual interactions with many men?

Is a woman pure if she had sex only with two men but thousands of times total, over a four year relationship with each man?

Is a woman pure if she had sex only five times total but with five different men?

Is a woman pure if she had sex only with one man, but it included unusual, perhaps controversial practices?

Is a woman pure if she had no sexual interactions with anyone at all but is dishonest and manipulative?

anita