Dear Blossom:

Glad you are back with another thread.

The more I read, the more convinced I am that indeed, this is a relationship that must stay in the past. Therefore my favorite sentence in this post is: “Good bye for ever”.

You wrote: “Was in love with the man that you are or the man that I thought you were when I first met you?”

Who he was when you first met him is in your first paragraph “…you told me I was beautiful, you were the perfect gentleman… you were protective, you listened , showered me with flowers and gifts…You seem to love me so much… (you) felt it was important to be honest.”

Who he is: “you questioned decisions I made… you criticised…. you were jealous of me… tried to pull me down…didn’t talk to me for a week…when I had the miscarriage and still you refused to see me…you ignored me…(I was) your punching bag, you seem to punish me for anything that went wrong in your life before me and whilst with me.”

Your letter to your ex makes me think that a woman should enjoy the courtship period but should not start evaluating WHO THE MAN is until after the courtship ends..?

anita