Dear nkronsch:

Whatever it is that you feel (not liking parenting) is okay- feelings are not a matter of choice. We feel what we feel. What you feel and what you think, really, is your personal business. You don’t owe anyone (or …society) to feel this way and not that way. This is one individual freedom that you can claim and enjoy wherever you are.

Behavior, what we do, theoretically it is a matter of choice; I say theoretically because often people are impulsive, driven to do this or that. Habits and addictions are strong, and choices don’t feel like choices.

You have the freedom to think and feel anything with no judgment of yourself. There is another freedom: to choose your actions thoughtfully, mindfully, not impulsively. You can claim this freedom wherever you are.

You have the freedom to have NO fake relationships in your life- what a freedom!

Most of the societal entrapments are upheld in our lives by that part of our brain that is raining on our own parades, so to speak. It is that voice that “speaks for society”- identify that voice, get to know it… and that is another freedom available for you.

I will soon get off the computer. Be back in about 11 hours. If you’d like write more, what comes to mind as you read this post and otherwise. Will reply tomorrow!

anita