Dear cdylie:

If you intend to have children, better not have any with him. His statement that he will not be playing much with his children because he does not want to be thought of as a pedophile is very disturbing to me. Maybe he was sexually abused as a child by a pedophile, maybe his mother accused his father of being a pedophile, I don’t know- maybe worse, maybe he has an attraction to children.

In either case, I vote for you to end the relationship: you are already drained and having children with him will be very irresponsible, I believe.

* He deserves empathy, obviously he has suffered and is suffering. What he does not deserve is your life handed to him as a sacrifice.

anita