Can I also add, since training to become a counsellor sentences like “Sorry this problem is something I cannot deal with, I love you and I care you, however, Dad is the person you need to speak with, not me” she responds to me like “Stop talking to me like a Counsellor” and gets defensive even in my choice of language, as does my sister come to think of it. It’s like all these people around me are aware of the change in me, not only in my vocabulary, my behavior and my new boundaries and get almost offended by it – this change is a good change, I’m bettering myself, why would they not want that for me? Is it more about them and how they feel about themselves that shows up when I do this that makes them act this way? Therefore I say what I need to but ignore their response. I also get confused with ‘ignoring’ their response as I feel I’m not being authentic tackingly it so I don’t go off resentful.