Dear Poppy:

If I was you, this is what I would do: I will look forward and plan on moving out and no longer living with her. I would minimize interactions with her, bare minimum in quality and quantity. I will not offer her any help and I will not be her empathetic audience. I will treat her like a roommate, politely (“please”, “thank you”) but nothing more. I will eliminate hopes for a relationship beyond the superficial and polite, now and forever more.

That’s it, nothing more, nothing less, nothing beyond.

anita