Dear Nan,

thanks for your reply. This thread seems to have picked up on an issue that was not the sole reason for my original message. I think perhaps its been taken too literal when i said that if i move out my mother won’t help me financially. She has never said this – and it therefore has never been a ‘threat’ of any sort. The rent in my home city is ridiculous and i want to stay here, so up until now at least its been a sensible option – many of my friends and brothers friends whom are older are still at home.

I do have difficulty in that i feel somewhat responsible for my mother, but i lived away from home for 3 years previously and i can do it again. I just don’t want to pay rent prices as it means compromising a lot of things. I also don’t feel comfortable moving cities as it seems unnecessary and i would feel even lonelier than i already do – plus i have work here.

Thank you for your message and concerns but its really not where i was going with my message – its hard to explain all the details at once and therefore get clarity on a complex situation…perhaps i didn’t share the ‘right’ things in the right way.