Hi Jamie,

Every breakup is different so again this advice only goes so far.
Also, I’ve gone through a few breaks-ups but absolutely no expert.
I always find the best way to exit a relationship emotionally for both parties is tell him the relationship is over and state directly to him that he isn’t going to be able to get in contact, spend one last night together and then cut all ties completely for three months.

This may seem cold but the small getting back togethers, the long phone calls and the checking in on one another. It gives your bf the wrong impression of your intentions, it shakes your confidence in your decision and ultimately I find it creates more pain for both of you (even though your intention is to lessen the pain by staying in contact).

Exiting a relationship and blocking him out takes an incredible amount of willpower.
Time heals all but at first it’s like the most guilty and worst feeling in the world.
Obviously you have this community but ask your friends and family for support and help before you do it.
If you fall into the “there’s no one else for me” trap then get active on a dating site.
Delete boyfriend from whatsapp so you’re not tempted to text.
Coffee after three months ideal as the emotion is gone and you can both objectively find closure.