Dear James Ford:

I don’t know what you mean by “mentally disabled” grandmother (the one you live with) and the other family members with whom you don’t live. You mentioned that your brother wants you to drink with him and you don’t want to, and that you may smoke cannabis with him.

Because your brother is mentally disabled, as you termed it, better not follow his wishes, that you drink or smoke with him. Because your other family members are mentally disabled, be careful how you associate with them. You wrote that you don’t want to be like them- well, do not do what they wish that you do. No matter how much you love them, stay faithful and loyal to who you are and who you want to be.

Associate with people who are good for you, who promote your well being, as you promote theirs. Make relationships Win-Win propositions.

If you would like, write more about “the ego thing” as it plays in your thinking and living.

anita