Dear selizabeth1996:

In response to your last note to me: “I find it easier to put the blame on myself because it gives an answer to why the relationships or situations don’t work.”-

It happens every time: children take the blame to what goes wrong. If a parent is unhappy, for example, the child will feel responsible: something about me must have caused it, the thinking goes.

This thinking often extends into adulthood: something is wrong? Must be my fault.

It may be easier, to think this way, as you wrote, but it is not correct thinking. What causes a relationship to end is not all in you. At best it is a shared responsibility between the two people in the relationship.

anita