Ok, this is just my opinion…

I’m 38 years old and I’m now married to a man who’s 49 years old. Before him, when I was already in my 30’s, I dated men in their 20’s. And now, my son is almost 20. So, I have a little bit of experience dealing with guys around your ex-boyfriend’s age.

First of all, the decrease in texting isn’t a good sign. Guys pretend to not be as “into it” as girls, but when they want to talk to a girl, they text just as much as we do! A guy will always make an effort to be in contact with a girl he wants to be with. That’s a hard thing to accept, I know first hand. I’ve had to tell myself many times “If he wanted to talk to me, he would be calling (or texting) me without me having to initiate it.”

Secondly, when a guy, especially a guy his age, says he needs some time for himself, he really just wants to do his own thing and wants to spend time with other people. It might be other girls or it might just be his buddies. But I don’t know very many 22 year old guys who need “me time” bad enough that they’ll quit seeing their girlfriend. Guys that age are rarely by themselves. You may notice his time by himself includes being with his friends.

I don’t know what country you live in, so I don’t know if you being 19 and him being 22 is like it is in America. Here, a 19 year old can’t drink or stay in certain clubs after specific hours. And, in SOME cases, 19 year olds are just starting college, whereas a 22 year old has already been there. So, there’s a possibility he wants to be around people his own age. And yes, that may include girls his age.

I don’t WANT to say this, but I don’t think he’s going to have an epiphany and realize he really wants to be with you. That’s not to say he doesn’t think about you or still like you. If I’m wrong and he does come back around, watch for any signs that he’s just looking for a good time because he thinks you’ll do anything to be with him. He may come back and genuinely want to be together, but he may come to you because he thinks you’re a sure thing…