Dear Bird:

Looking at the title of your thread: how to rebuild marriage with person who caused emotional damage-

you live with your guard up, alert to danger, for as long as you feel this way. Since you can’t change how you feel, don’t try. I don’t think there is an article that will change the natural dynamic of a person (or any living thing) withdrawing from pain, or running away (emotionally, in your case) from perceived danger.

Sometimes one person causes so much damage in another, that anything but running away is impossible; so much damage that … the damage has been done and can’t be undone.

Give it more time, pay attention to how he behaves and how you feel- gather information on these two fronts and re-evaluate later.

Post anytime.

anita