Dear Just A Name:

I don’t believe you are responsible for her lying to you, blaming you for her own wrongdoings, ignoring you and so on. I think these are her behaviors, her motivations. You didn’t “make her” feel and behave the ways she has. Why did she change, you ask. Maybe she got bored, maybe she wants a change, a different man, a different life style (more partying, less marriage-like living).

Really, I don’t believe you are responsible for her change in behavior. I am glad you recovered some from your previous depression and I understand that you need more recovery.

Hope you let go of unjustified self blame. As I read it, it is unjustified. The one who is lying is guilty (of lying), not the one who is not.

anita