Hi matt,

I agree with anita in that (unless her parents are paying the rent of course) SHE should move out as it was her idea to break up. If she really wants to break up she will put up with the headache of moving. As you are already dealing with heartache. When we break up with someone, we usually have put a lot of thought into it. The other person is usually blindsided.

Of course, move out yourself if it is all too much for you. But I wouldn’t be packing boxes in your situation myself. That’s just me of course.

If your friends are true, you can tell them, “We broke up and I DON’T want to talk about it. Please don’t bring her up. When I’m with you guys I just want to clear my head. Don’t tell me about her either. I DON’T want to know how she’s doing, if she’s moved, or if she’s with someone.”

And promptly delete her from your phone and all social media. If she wants to contact you she can and will figure it out.

One more thing: It is very unusual to still be with your college (age) sweetheart. It is high time for you to be with someone new, dare I say better for you. She is expired milk that threw herself out (but still wants you to move. Don’t.)

Best,

Inky