Hi everyone

An update from me. After a lot of sould searching and trying to make things work, essentially nothing has changed and the feelings of walking on eggshells and not being able to do anything right have continued.
I have told my partner and am moving out the home on Saturday with my two wonderful boys.
He hasn’t taken it well, its been horrendous, which culminated in him forcing me to tell the kids last night in an uncontrolled way while he sobbed “dont do this, dont do this”. My 9 year old was hysterical, the youngest one didn’t really say anything I am not sure what his understanding is.
I feel free but terribly hurt I couldn’t protect my children last night from seeing his pain. It just confirms to me he is a self centred individual who sees no wrong in his actions. He cannot believe it, even though its been mentioned a lot of times. I still have love for him. I guess I want reassurance the kids are not going to be f**ked up by the whole mess. I am very focused on them. They are my priority. This morning I told both school teachers and have support in real life.
The teacher of the eldest offered an appointment with the school psychologist: should I wait and see what happens, or agree to that anyway?
He is very very upset of course. Thanks in advance.