Dear neversaynever:

I believe you should move on with your life. The behaviors you described about your ex girlfriend are quite common really. I know a man who was married for more than 30 years to a woman displaying these behaviors: demanding more and more, nothing is ever enough and so on. You can save yourself a whole lot of pain and suffering if you simply continue this life-saving No Contact. Continue it into … eternity. When you have a girlfriend again, pay close attention so to not get into a relationship with yet another woman displaying these behaviors. This way you can use this painful experience to prevent another.

Be next, with an honest woman, who will show you love, as love begets love, as you wrote.

You asked, can a woman like this change? My answer: only if she really wants to, and keeps wanting to, for a long, long time, and is willing to work hard during that time, on changing. Not many people are willing. She may require competent psychotherapy to help her through changing.

anita