How do I un-attach

I think you un-attach when you recognize that in some way you will always be a part of each other’s stories. I don’t believe that to be a contradiction. Trying to forget, or pretend otherwise just makes the attachments stronger.

In a way after a break up it is memory that we are attached to. Memory not just of the past experiences but memories of the hope we had for an imagined future that can no longer be. Knowing what we are mourning and might wish to reattach to is important part of the process.

Time does not heal but it can soften memories and with that the attachments we have to them. We breathe, we mourn, and just maybe find ourselves grateful for what we have learned.