Dear pollypeeps:

A few more things:

If he lies to you, that is a problem. You need his honesty.

You wrote: “Now after him saying he doesn’t know if he loves me…is he saying he doesn’t love me anymore, a game of manipulation in itself or just trying to hurt me more than ever.”-

No one feels affection for another 100% of the time. If he expects to feel affection all the time and gets alarmed when he doesn’t, thinking he doesn’t love you anymore, that is his faulty thinking.

But if he said it, as you suspect, in a manipulative way, “trying to hurt (you) more than ever”- then that is very unloving. Trying to hurt a person is the opposite of loving that person.

You are inclined to take responsibility for problems, believing you are in the wrong. There are people with the opposite inclination- pointing the finger of blame at another, giving the other the responsibility for anything that goes wrong. There is a “fit” in such a pairing of people, but that fit is misery for the one taking the blame.

anita