Dear hannahl:

You are experiencing pain, understandably. You became emotionally attached to him. When that happens, when we get emotionally attached to a person, it hurts when that attachment is broken, a heart ripped to pieces. There is nothing you can do to prevent such pain (not for long) because it follows a broken attachment as automatically and as naturally as in any law of nature.

How do you proceed from here? Endure this pain- it will not kill you. It feels bad but you can and will survive it, so much so, that you will love again and you will be happy again.

To prevent unnecessary pain in the future, learning from our present and past experiences, is wise. You can’t prevent the pain once the attachment is already formed, but you can evaluate a future man and a future relationship before forming an attachment, evaluate for compatibility first.

Please do post here as many times as you need-

You will feel better, I have no doubt.

anita