Dear mangomango123:

Arguments, quarrels are not congruent with love. At first, I understand, you started fights (arguments, quarrels, same), followed by cooling off, making up and going back to a happy-enough normal. But over time, with more and more fights, the “normal” for him after the fights was distress and unhappiness, and so “his motivation and passion to improve the relationship” decreased daily, you wrote. Until he … didn’t want a future with you.

You tried to change, to no longer start fights but you failed, and one time, a “minor disagreement” caused another break up.

If there is a chance for this relationship, you need to stop fighting, stop arguing, stop quarreling. There are ways for you to assert yourself without aggression. If you can’t live with the differences you have with him “in terms of lifestyle, preferences and views”- then don’t be in a relationship with the man, but don’t stay in the relationship and fight and fight… and fight yet again.

Do you agree with what I wrote above? (Be back in twelve hours or so)

anita