Dear Lindsay Harrington:

We may feel comfortable around a person because he reminds us, in some superficial way of someone who was kind to us in childhood, someone with whom we felt comfortable. It could be the looks of the person, the way they smile, the way they talk… that is all it takes. The comfortable feeling you had did not mean he was the-one.

Your last line: “My hope is to… find someone who is mature enough to take blame for their wrongdoing” – lots of people never mature that way. They age and die, still taking no responsibility for their wrongdoing.

When you meet a new man in your life, pay attention as soon as possible: is he taking responsibility for his actions? Is he kind to you day in and day out, continuously? If yes to both- I hope you feel very comfortable with him.

anita