Dear Fenrir:

You’ve done your best to be “very mellow and easy going and (not) let people get to you”- your brain/ body did its best to find peace in the ongoing distress of your growing up years.

Problem is, the distress he caused you, instilled in you, is in the way of making this relationship you have “mellow and easy going”-

It is possible that you feel like you Have-To live with your father, financially or otherwise, so you trained yourself to be as dissociated from him as possible, be as numb as possible to him. With your girlfriend, you have less practice in being numb.

And you probably shouldn’t be numb in relationship with her.

What do you think about this, here?

anita