Dear hailee:

Reads to me like you are panicking a bit, imagining and rushing from a bad scenario to a worse scenario. Let’s slow down and look at your situation:

You are missing him and you don’t have as much (long distance) communication with him as you would like. This is uncomfortable but it is not disastrous. Missing him does not mean you are in a bad way, helpless and out of control. It doesn’t mean bad things are to happen. It only means you miss him.

You can miss him and study for your exams. You can have a photo of him with you when you study. Every time you think of him, you can look at his photo and smile at his image there, or you can touch the photo (or something he gave you/ reminds you of him) and find comfort in that, then go back to your studying.

Try to not rush in your thoughts and imagining to the time in the future that you will see him again. Focus the best you can on the present going-ons in this relationship. Now is all you have. If the communication is going well now, find comfort in it. You don’t know what will happen in the future, so let it be in the future.

Does this help any?

anita