Thank you both very much.

I guess on reflection that yes frustration is probably not the right word, I think disappointment may be better? But not so much in my self, I think maybe for them? I sometimes feel sad that they’re suffering & I just want to make things good, so when my efforts are there to do that, by giving advice to a friend & not on a professional basis, I expect them to take it & change it (not necessarily straight away) or else they’ll keep suffering.
I need to manage the deattachment from feeling their suffering, but I guess that comes from them being friends/family, therefore that attachment is different to if I were doing it on a professional basis with people I wouldn’t see again (I might do but not as likely), because they’re in my life personally I care for them in a different way to which I’d care for a client, if that makes sense.

But yes, when I compare it to my journey, I realise that I never even listened to myself when I knew things were wrong in my relationship for example, u just ignored myself for about a year, then when we split up was when I started making changes. People will only change & make an effort to make changes when they’re truly suffering & want to heal. I need to remember that it is all at their own pace & I can give the advice & tools needed, but not everyone will follow them straight away or at all