Dear huskylover:

Reads to me that some of your expectations of your boyfriend are reasonable, like expecting him not to go to his parents for dinner while you are home alone, sick. Other expectations are not reasonable, like expecting him not to fix his truck when you are home alone, sick (not sick enough to need to be taken to a hospital, let’s say).

You wrote that you suffer from anxiety. When we do, we tend to be unsatisfied in relationships. We tend to see the reason we are anxious in the other person’s behavior. Then we talk with him about what we perceive as HIS problematic behavior, so that he will change and we can be calm. It may be why he doesn’t want to engage in talks with you.

When suffering from anxiety and not taking responsibility for the anxiety, we tend to blame another for our distress. And so, relationship success is not likely with anyone.

What do you think?

anita