Hi Anita, thanks so much sometimes-most of the time- I need someone to see what I am unable to wrap my head around.

Yes I agree that the ‘sense of obligation blocks my freedom due to their unanticipated needs’ you made me realize how I ignore my very own anticipated needs-a fear of spending and not feeling like I will have enough. I have a repeated pattern: I want to relocate to another state, I want to have a successful entrepreneurial career(a passion of mine) but I get to this place every spring and summer where I feel like I can’t take care of myself and make those things happen but yet I am trying to fix things for other people.

The biggest reason I want to redefine the relationships in some way- is the stress that come from me being the decision maker and now i’m dealing with mom that doesn’t make decision on facts (Dad has passed away). I have been walking away so that she can solve more on her own. the more I set boundaries, the more distance I receive and lack of support. So this is where I need to know what to do.

At his point the above statements is what I have been able to clarify and new issues that come up from the helpful questions you have asked.

What do I do in these situations to relate?