Dear lukesblues:

Your tendency to fix things leads you to focus on broken things, doesn’t it? So you focus on the broken relationship at the expense of the one not broken.

I suggest you focus on the healthy relationship. If you only wait a little longer, there will be problems in this one too, as there are problems in any relationship. I hope those problems will be easily fixable or manageable.

And you didn’t fix your father, or your relationship with your father, so you are not that good (no one is!) at fixing major, unfixable problems. Another reason to focus on the less-major problems…

anita