Hi Tessa,

I haven’t read Anita’s responses as I wanted to give my own, so apologise if I repeat anything she has already said.
First let me say I have been in this same situation with a friend, my sister but more so my Mum.

What you need to understand is that her projections are about her. When she see’s the realizations you have come too and see’s how powerful and strong that is for you, it brings up insecurity within her. She may consciously or subconsciously think “I wish I was as powerful as her, I wish I had the spark she has, but I haven’t got time, I can’t be bothered, I like being here, being stuck” and that’s ok, that’s her journey and you need to accept and appreciate that. We all go on our own journeys. My Mum hated my ex boyfriend and when I would explain the reasons for his behaviours, not condoning them, but trying to understand why he was doing what he was from a empathetic side, and she would say silly things like “why doesn’t he go and die!” hmmm… but I’ve realised that I can’t tell her or anyone stuff like this – I tell one close friend, but even she has a difference of opinion sometimes to what my therapist has said. So, this is normal for people to do this, don’t feel singled out.
When you begin to feel more empathy for people, you will realise that everybody is fighting their own battle and when you come out more positive, with answers and acknowledgements, they usually resent that and you – but again, it’s about them, not you.

Maybe you could speak to your therapist about this aswell?