Hi Josh,

Realisations are good, as they help you learn what may have gone wrong & what to work on for the future.

But you must’ve go into ‘victim’ mode and blame yourself. It was a two way relationship & sometimes the things she could’ve changed, may have changed your responses & reactions & vice versa. As humans we are triggered & act in ways that are determined by our upbringing/childhood & good & bad experiences along the way.

The fact is, nothing can be changed in the way that they played out, everything happens for a reason.

Would you say your situation now is more so how to heal from this situation as opposed too wanting her back?