Dear Azouz:

I don’t go clubbing, never had. It makes sense to me that a woman who goes clubbing alone or with girlfriends, is motivated by the desire to have fun. Having fun, for her, is drinking, dancing and often, if not always, flirting with men. If the woman drinks enough, even if she has no such intention, she finds herself in compromising situations with men.

You wrote that if you move on your pain has been in vain. My comment: you don’t get “points” for being in pain. In other words, no  one up there in the sky says something like: “Azouz has been in this much pain and so, he earned his right for some happiness”-

If you stay in a dysfunctional relationship you get to experience MORE pain, that is all. If you move on, then you have the opportunity to, later on, have a different relationship. If you learn from this one, then you can have a functional, healthy relationship in the future. Something to learn: evaluate a woman for honesty. And find out if she likes clubbing. If she is dishonest and/ or likes clubbing- well, you will know what to do next, won’t you?

anita