Hi Donna

Could you elaborate a bit more?

It’s funny, my mother thinks I ‘expect too much from life’ and should accept my relationship with my husband for what it is and be grateful.

Like I said earlier, my husband is a good man and he is very good at practical things. For example, the bills are paid on time, if the car needs maintenance or whatever he arranges that. From a practical partnership point of view, he is good. From an emotional point of view, not so much. That’s not to say we don’t speak – we do, but it’s always very superficial and about day to day things, eg how was your day? What shall we have for dinner? Shall we put this TV show on? We need to do such and such…  As someone who doesn’t seem to have much emotional depth, this is enough for him and he is happy and content with our relationship which is another reason why it’s difficult to change things. He cannot fix something he doesn’t consider to be broken.

Thanks Anita for your words, it’s like you have summed up the whole situation.

I wonder what is stopping me leaving him. Love? I’m not afraid of being on my own but something is stopping me leaving.

Thanks