Hi Susana, it sounds kind of messy to me – two people who seem to be attracted to and like one another, but who keep pushing each other away.

My first thought concerns your idea “I never really say things directly because I always want to be sure about the other person before giving a step forward.” Regardless of how he responds, YOU might feel empowered if you worked on speaking more directly, to him, and to others.

My second thought is that regrets are really, really unpleasant. So when possible, I try to make decisions so that I won’t look back with regret.

What do you think you’ll do?