Dear Sarah Min:

I re-read your posts on this thread. My thoughts: the way it was, when you were unavailable to him emotionally, and he was in love with you, well, that part is over. He was in love with his ex girlfriend before you and is no longer in love with her. He was in love with you and is no longer in love with you.

Reality now according to my understanding is that he doesn’t care much for you. You are there, he sleeps with you when he wants, flirts with another woman, whatever it is he is doing- this situation is comfortable for him. This is working for him because he can have sex with you whenever he needs to, without a commitment.

I agree with you, that the way you perceived him and the situation is no longer the situation and he is not the person you thought he was. You thought what he said is solid, that he is the rock you always needed, a man’s whose love you can count on.

But it is not so. It is very possible that if you went for him from the very beginning, this situation currently would still be the situation.

How long do you intend to live with him? What are your  plans for your life, other than living with him, waiting?

anita